I want to know whether the father has to be present or is his consent enough? Along with two witnesses of course.

A girl and boy would like to get married, the boys side has sent a proposal. The father of the girl and auntie asked the girl if she accepted to marry the boy she said yes. Both families have been aware that the girl and boy would like to get married. So the girls auntie (girls fathers sister) accepted the proposal on the girls behalf and told the girls father he said ok.

1. Issue 1 is the girl and boy live in separate countries and the father has responsibilities of younger children upon him and he is not allowed to remove the children from the country due to restrictions of the court therefore he would not be able to attend the nikha.

2. The girls fathers family are causing problems and are delaying the marriage by adding stupid customs and want a grand wedding something the girl and boy don't want they just want a simple nikha. They keep on avoiding the marriage by not fixing the date and making excuses. The girls uncle (fathers brother) has said it will be like we are sending the girls dead body away when she gets married from our house. Implying that he is not happy with the wedding over inislamic issues. The grandfather of the girl said if the girl doesn't come to our house and do such customs then we will not sit in the nikha.

3. If all of these keep on persisting like this would it just be better to make the qadi a wali? They are just making it so difficult the father has given permission he said it to the aunties and also told his daughter I give you permission. However he will side with his parents in all these customs. The fathers side are very cunning and all the girl and boy want it to get there nikha done validly.